There are dozens of folks with us, whom we consider as our pals but deep within we know that they are the ones on whom we will never count on..not even in the case of slightest glitches, forget about the dark times of miseries..!! Yet, at some point of time, when they don't live up to our expectations, why do we feel nettled then??
In the past nineteen years of my life, i made ample of "friends"; and with the passing years, friends came n friends went but only a few could leave a lasting impression on the heart. I don't know how but i had envisaged quite early in my life (as i can say) that the only reason why we get miffed with someone is when we expect them to do something for us.
Lately, an incident took place that put one of my friends in a snit. I tried my level best to placate, but all in vain, coz nothing i said seemed to pacify. It just reminded me of a numerous other incidents where people got furious on discovering that the things were not being done their way. Getting angry is human, but what people fail to learn is NOT to keep grudges.
Yeah, now getting back to my life, as i was talking about; in my early teens, when i started to face the harsh realities of life wherein your friends ditch, get jealous and might even plot against you (in the worst conditions though), it came up as a huge blow to me at that tender age. Anything of this sort would fume me up and i would lay tormented for the rest of the day.
Call it perceptiveness or insight, but this came to my rescue (and i thank god with all my heart for blessing me with this).I had learnt my lesson that my distress would harm no one, but me, and it would do no good in changing the other person who caused the agony.On that very day a transition had started which took two complete years to make me the person i am now. I stay happier and more cheerful as i expect nothing from anyone. Now, nobody (however hard he may try) can hurt me. Although i need to confess that at times, some incidents do cause discomfort, but then, they ain't so powerful as to last longer than a while. Each night, i dump my grudges and start my next day afresh. So even when a person who said (or did) something that made me feel offended the last day, meets me, i greet him with a pleasant smile (and trust me, it is from the heart and i hold no bitterness for him)
Now, with no resentment against anyone, i feel lighter and more exultant. It was this experience (and aphorism) i wanted to share with my friend that day but it was the anger that i could see on the face, which stopped me. I have no clue, if anyone reading this post (though the case arises, only if someone reads it...lolzz) agrees to my point of view, but all i wanna say is, holding no rancor against anyone makes me a more contented person altogether..